Raise the Bar or Pass the Bar?

Raising the Bar or Just Pass the Bar

I find myself some days in the position of having to give wanted AND unwanted advice to a TEENAGER! So many times the explanations about life can be so difficult and make no sense whatsoever.

However, I discovered the concept that so many think will work of sharing/caring/giving is 50/50.

!OH SO WRONG!

Using the logic and visual aid of a grand dining table all set with china and crystal and then given the instruction to move that table thru a major obstacle course and not let anything slide, or fall.

Picture you and your partner, what if both of you decided to move this "dining table" contributing only 50/50. This being each of you picking up with only one hand and trying to carry.

Imagine how unstable the table and it's contents would be. Imagine when you'd come to a high obstacle that required raising the table(aka raising the bar) .....and you would raise your side but your partner didn't...guess what happens to all that china and crystal!

You guessed it, everything slides and dumps on them!

Nobody likes being dumped on and no one likes to feel like they are having to carry the load.

All my life I have heard it preached over and over about being "unequally yoked"...the emphases was always about the partner needing to be a Christian but you know what...it's more than that.You seriously need to find a partner that is willing to "raise the bar", be willing to use BOTH hands to carry the load and do whatever else it takes to keep things level.

I explained that one person's idea of "raising the bar" and another's may be totally different, therefore you need to really find out long before making a commitment where your partners personal bar level stands.

For some, their idea of raising the bar may be turning the local bar into a 2 story building!